Ask people’s consent. To be honest, hook up is a very vague area, and if you are not completely sure that you and your partner are clear in your choice, ask an affirmative consent. Mutual consent and mutual pleasure should be your basic rule when it comes to dating. Sex educator Jules Purnell have said that “The point of hooking up should be to feel good together, and as long as the parties involved agree to what that looks like, you’re good to go.”
Don’t try to hid your intention. Being honest with what you want when it comes to hooking up is very important, especially to your hook up partner. If you’re not looking for something serious or you are looking for a serious relationship, make it clear to other people. The right person is the one who wants the same things, make sure you are on the same page with them, if they’re not on the same page, at least you have made things clear and give them a chance to think and exit if they want, this is not only to reduce unnecessary misunderstanding, but also to respect your common will.
Take every hook up seriously, though you are not looking for a date, your hook up partner deserves your attention as well. Making your partner feel special can make you’re your hook up more successful. Sex educator Amy Baldwin have said that “Most people are in their heads as opposed to their bodies, and this can make touch feel mechanical or robotic as opposed to sensual and sexy,” To make it more clear, try to move your body according to what you feel at that moment instead of moving in the way you think you should. How can we make our partner feel they are special and we are enjoying the time with them? Keep eye contact, eye contacts show that you know what are going to happen and that you’re totally into it, you will do a better job when you have created a real connection with them.
Don’t be afraid to take the lead. Sometimes we are all waiting for each other's action, but our own delay in action, the opportunity is thus wasted. No matter what kind of relationship, someone needs to take the first step at the beginning, otherwise the relationship will never have a start. Don't be afraid to take the first step when the person you're interested in doesn't act, maybe it's just “your place or mine”, or a “where are we going to meet” on dating apps, you give yourself an opportunity to have a potentially perfect hook up.
Relax yourself. A successful hook up should be conducted when both parties are in a relaxed state. If one party feels uncomfortable, it should be stopped in time, because it will only leave a bad collusion memory for both of you, you can have some small talk to make both of you are familiar with each other and ease your awkward.
